Almost everyone who has ever had any strong feelings about their childhood has an inner child.
The only difference is whether that inner child climbs to the surface consciousness or not.
I hope this article will give you some insight into how to heal your inner child.
What is an inner child?
Inner child means the child inside of you.
Normally, when a person grows up from a child to an adult, most people stop showing their child side in order to apply it to society, behave as an adult, and learn common sense so as not to cause trouble for others.
However, when certain conditions come together, the inner child suddenly comes out and habits, feelings, and thought patterns from childhood come to the surface.
The character of the inner child varies depending on the problems one is facing, such as loneliness, anger, resentment, sadness, or the habit of killing one’s feelings because of the trauma of expressing them.
Counseling and Diagnostic Methods
The diagnostic method of approaching the inner child spiritually is to first look at current habits and problematic things in a counseling session.
Mainly, this is the emotional part.
Since children are born into this world for a short period of time, they are not able to communicate well with others.
Therefore, they have no choice but to express themselves emotionally.
Moreover, even if they communicate with their emotions, they may not be able to convey their feelings well.
In other words, the child has both a strong desire to communicate and the frustration of not being able to communicate, which may lead to the habit of emotional outbursts or the habit of turning emotions off.
Often the strong feelings of that time remain inside of you and have become your inner child.
I have seen many inner children of students attending the Hado-Kenkyu-Juku and have lectured on how to heal them, but in this article, I would like to write about how I have healed my own inner child.
A child who has given up communicating
Everyone has an inner child, anyone who has had strong feelings as a child.
Of course, I had one too.
In me, there was a loneliness and resignation that I could not express my feelings.
When I expressed my feelings freely, my friends would get annoyed and beat me up.
I always thought that it was better for me not to say anything.
This inner child caused me to become a stutterer, and it continued until I was in my mid-thirties.
So, how did I heal my inner child? When I improved my communication skills and became able to communicate things clearly to others, my stuttering lessened.
In other words, my child self was convinced, “I can’t communicate,” and my current self said, “Don’t worry! See, I can communicate. When you show the child self a success experience like, “See, I can communicate,” the inner child’s beliefs are removed, and the inner child disappears.
Two ways to heal
There are two main approaches to healing the inner child, which are
- The energy work approach
- The practical approach
The energy work approach is lectured in the intermediate seminar of the Hado-Kenkyu-Juku.
However, even if the spiritual vibrational state is changed by energy work, it often returns to the original spiritual vibrational state, depending on the mindset of the person.
Therefore, the part that can be completely healed by energy work is only a light part.
For a deep-seated inner child that can return to its original state, a practical approach becomes essential.
Finding the words to heal the inner child.
The approach in energy work is to find the words to heal each of these inner children.
The words are found by communicating with the inner child.
You can never heal the inner child with only superficial words such as “thank you,” “I’m sorry,” or “I love you.
It is only when we communicate with our hearts that we can find the words we need to say.
However, there are inner children who will not be convinced no matter what words you say to them.
This is the case with my “child who has given up trying to communicate,” as I mentioned above.
In this case, I, as the parent of the surface consciousness, repeatedly convey the message in a realistic and easy-to-understand way to others, and the inner child is forced to accept what is conveyed to it.
I feel that this realistic approach of “showing the child (inner child) the successful experience of the parent (me)” is considerably more effective than simply conveying words of healing.
Healing the inner child to change reality is not easy.
It is a practical approach that is more effective than words of healing, but although I wrote this as if it were very easy to do, it is actually not that easy.
Because, while there is a stubborn inner child within me that says, “I give up communicating now,” and sometimes it breaks out and affects the surface consciousness self, the surface consciousness self must learn to communicate and practice communicating, with a strong desire to communicate more clearly In other words.
In other words, the surface consciousness self wants to “fly high,” but there is another self that holds its legs and pulls it down.
The more you try to fly, the more the exact opposite force is at work.
That must be discouraging.
Cooperate with the light unconscious.
Within one’s unconscious level, there is the inner child, but there is also the unconscious of light that returns the inner child to nothingness.
Within the unconscious level, there is a stubborn me who thinks, “I’m going to give up communicating.
But there is also a part of me that says, “I want to be able to communicate more freely, and I don’t want to give up communicating.”
The superficial self can find hope for the future by cooperating with the light unconscious.
When you try to fly, your ankles are pulled down again and again, but it is the power of the light unconscious that does not give up trying to fly further up even though it is being pulled down.
It is a root contest to see who will give up first.
When it comes to the root contest, the unconscious of light is stronger.
The inner child is firmly anchored by the dark energy, but the dark energy is triggered by the use of the weak part of a person’s mind.
If the weak part of the mind is used to immobilize the inner child, then it is impossible for the part of the mind that is not defeated by the weak part of the mind (light) to be defeated in the root contest.
That is why, in order to release and heal the inner child, the surface consciousness must team up with the unconscious of light, and together they heal the inner child and return it to nothing.
Energy work and therapy are just the start.
To sum up.
As is the case with the seminar participants, I myself did not know what my inner child was at first.
However, by finding my inner child through energy work or by undergoing therapy to have it diagnosed, the image of my inner child inside me gradually became clearer.
So, whether or not the inner child can be completely healed by energy work or therapy alone, I think that it is very necessary to stand on the starting line to be able to analyze the inner child inside of you, in order to go from 0 to 1.